Hello mates! After Monday’s Blog I’ve had a few girls comment on the fact they don’t think they could ever suffer through the sorts of injuries we were talking about. I beg to differ!
Aren’t you girls the ones that somehow manage to carry babies and then deliver them? I can tell you from personal experience my wife has a pain threshold that would make any man wince (except me of course, LOL!), and if you ladies are genetically tough enough to take that sort of punishment, you can handle anything.
You just have to be sure to keep telling yourself you are so that you believe it in the event that it happens. Trust me, YOU are tough!
We opened the door to something on Monday that bears some additional chit-chat: and it isn’t necessarily nice to think about, so I’d like you to brace yourself for what’s to come in this Blog.
I should say before we start that you aren’t any safer without this knowledge. So if you read this and start wishing you just never started, I understand your sentiments. While in the Commandos, I can remember the lectures about what we could expect to endure if we were ever captured by the enemy – it didn’t make me happy either.
But I can tell you what it did do… It made me realize that all of the prep work that we were expected to put into planning a military operation was there for a reason. Suddenly it wasn’t so much trouble to cross the T’s and dot the I’s.
Staying safe in the military is all about pre-planning, attention to detail and then staying flexible when it all unravels anyway.
You should view the following information in the same light. It’s not to make you so scared you feel like life’s not worth it, it’s to illuminate different possible scenarios so you are better able to plan contingencies around them.
Also, please keep in mind, that although for our purposes I have broken down sex offenders into the three basic categories as was originally defined by Dr. Nicholas Groth in 1979, there is a great deal of cross over involved in the way each of these offenders can and do often operate.
There are also a number of subcategories within each of these types as well. But in the interest of not making it overwhelming I’m sticking with the basics.
As I mentioned on Monday, if the guy who is robbing you seems a bit too calm, you might have a real problem. Yes, more of a problem than just being robbed.
In the broadest sense, there are three main types of rapists:
A – Anger
B – Power
C – Sadist
Why is this important to know, you might ask. Isn’t a rapist a rapist and whatever I do won’t matter?
NO! WHAT & HOW YOU ACT CAN BE EVERYTHING!
Firstly, we need to understand that of these three, the one you are most likely to encounter in a stranger attack is the anger rapist.
Anger rapists tend to use a significant amount of physical force when they subdue their victims—in most cases, far more force than is necessary to perpetrate the abuse. This often leaves victims severely battered and bruised on various areas of their bodies. Anger rapists also tend to be verbally abusive during their assaults—which are short in duration and very explosive in nature.
Anger rapists tend not to plan their specific offenses. Rather, they act impulsively to take advantage of situations that have presented themselves. Victim choice depends solely upon whom anger rapists see as vulnerable and available at the moment they decide they want to offend. Between 25% and 40% of known rapes are committed by men who are considered anger rapists.
Center for Sex Offender Management – US Department of Justice
We should first take a moment to review this information. In light of the fact that the Anger rapist is the most likely to attack spontaneously, brought on by opportunity rather than clever planning, you are better able to realize when you might be at greater risk.
If you are alone and approached by a man, act first, act fast and, if necessary, apologize for your actions later.
He’s not wearing this getup because of an allergy to sunlight. Hit first and ask questions later.
I’m not here to start giving you legal advice, that’s for your lawyer after the fact. But if you and your lawyer are chatting later over a nice cup of tea, that means you are alive and maybe that this heads up might have helped save your life.
It’s not that the Anger Rapist is necessarily looking to kill you. But the attack tends to be so violent and over the top that even if the physical injuries don’t kill you, psychologically you could be maimed to a degree that full mental recovery never happens.
Part of the lesson I teach in regards to Situational Awareness includes knowing the number to your local Victims Advocacy Group. Just because you have been made a victim once, doesn’t mean you should be made to feel like one again through callous mishandling of your case later.
Victims who contact and then go through the process of giving evidence to authorities with a representative of the Victims Group next to them, typically recover quicker than those that don’t.
Colonel Dave Grossman – Author, Speaker and Trainer, advocates post violent action debriefings with certified therapists for Law Enforcement Personnel for much the same reason. He says,
“The likelihood of loss of life after a critical incident is greater than during the incident itself.” This is in part due to the enormous emotional strain of the encounter and an unwillingness to talk about what happened with the right people.
I would also like to state that “a callous” mishandling of your case might occur through no deliberate actions of the Law Enforcement Personnel at all.
Sometimes the very men and women who perform the duties of trying to keep these sorts of animals behind bars must distance themselves emotionally from the victims so they can keep doing it, day in and day out.
But when you are in what will be a very understandably heightened sense of vulnerability, anything other than the most caring of faces could be hard to handle.
Pre-planning to have this sort of information is not morbid, and the chances of this happening to you are very slim. But if it ever did, your long term mental health could be greatly improved by knowing this beforehand and being prepared.
I will carry on with more information about this topic on Friday, but as this is such a heavy thing to write, let alone read, I like to break it up into smaller chunks – for you and for me!!
Ignorance of the facts doesn’t make your life safer. It just means if anything bad ever does happen you stand less of a chance of ever fully recovering. And that isn’t fair to you, your friends, your family or your pet iguana, all of which expect you back, ASAP.
You are learning this for them.